Alright, let’s dive into the treacherous world of narcissists and how to navigate relationships with them. First off, let me tell you a dirty little secret: we all have narcissistic tendencies to some extent. But there’s a massive fucking difference between a healthy dose of self-love and being a full-blown narcissist.
Recognize a narcissist
So, what the hell is a “narcissist,” you ask? Well, buckle up, buttercup, because we’re about to dive into the nitty-gritty of what makes a narcissist tick and how to spot one in the wild.
A narcissist is someone who basically makes others responsible for their feelings, essentially outsourcing control of their emotions to their partner. They need constant validation and attention, and when they don’t get it, they may lash out or play the victim. Sounds like a real fucking joy to be around, right?
Now that we’ve covered the basics let’s break down some telltale signs that you might be dealing with a narcissist:
- They’re always the center of attention: Narcissists have a natural talent for making everything about them, even shit that has absolutely nothing to do with them. If you find yourself in a conversation that’s constantly being redirected back to your partner, you might be dealing with a narcissist.
- They lack empathy: One of the most infuriating things about narcissists is their inability to put themselves in other people’s shoes. They don’t give a rat’s ass about your feelings or problems. If you find yourself constantly feeling unheard or dismissed, you might be dealing with a narcissist.
- They’re never wrong: Narcissists have a pathological need to be right, even when they’re so fucking wrong it’s laughable. If you find yourself in a relationship where your partner refuses to admit they’re wrong or apologize, you might be dealing with a narcissist.
- They’re controlling: Narcissists love to have power over others, and they will use any means necessary to maintain that control. If you find yourself feeling smothered or constantly second-guessing your decisions, you might be dealing with a narcissist.
Now deal with them
So you’ve identified a narcissist in your life. What the hell do you do now?
Well, first off, let me just say this: it’s not your job to “fix” or “change” a narcissist. If you think you can swoop in and save the day like some kind of relationship superhero, think again. Narcissists are notorious for being resistant to change, and any attempts to “help” them will likely be met with hostility and resentment.
Instead, focus on taking care of your own emotional well-being and setting healthy boundaries. Always remember the two sacred rules of healthy relationships:
- Each person takes responsibility for their own emotions and actions.
- Each person can expect the other to do the same for their own emotions and actions.
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, it’s crucial to remember these rules and hold your partner accountable for their own emotions and actions. Don’t let them manipulate you into taking responsibility for their shit – that’s their job, not yours.
And if you’re finding that your relationship with a narcissist is taking a toll on your emotional well-being, it might be time to reevaluate whether this relationship is worth the headache. Sometimes, the best thing you can do for yourself is to walk away.
Now, I know this might sound harsh, but hear me out: relationships are supposed to enrich our lives, not drain the ever-loving fuck out of us. If you’re constantly feeling exhausted, unhappy, or unfulfilled in your relationship, it’s time to take a long, hard look at whether this narcissist is really the right person for you.
Dealing with a narcissist isn’t a walk in the park, but it doesn’t have to be the end of the world, either. The key is to recognize the signs, hold your partner accountable for their emotions and actions, and prioritize your own emotional well-being. Remember, you deserve a relationship that uplifts and supports you, not one that leaves you feeling like a shell of your former self.
So go forth and conquer the world of relationships with your newfound knowledge, and never ever become a narcissist.
You got this!